Posts Tagged ‘Hate’

Love and Hate plus Eight

I love to hate a lot of things in pop culture; Miley Cyrus, Shutter Shades, Lifetime. However, there is nothing I love to hate more than Jon and Kate Gosselin.

John and Kate plus Eight is a “reality” show on TLC chronicling the lives of a family with two sets of multiples – twins and sextuplets. In the beginning, you’d see how this family handled everything from feeding 8 small children to grocery shopping with eight small children to grass clipping with eight small children. It reaffirmed my belief that I will never have kids of my own.

Well… as the show got more and more popular, Jon and Kate got full of themselves and sick of each other. The newer episodes show more fighting and bickering between the parents than between the kids. There is no break between filming seasons. The kids have no time away from the cameras. And now, there are rumors of infidelity in the marriage. It’s on the cover of the tabloids for Pete’s sake – bumping down Angelina and Brad – who are WAY more importaint IMO….

Cara, Maddie, Hannah, Joel, Collin, Alexa, Aaden, and Leah (holy crap I know all their names without looking!) don’t stand a chance at having anything close to resembling a normal childhood if the series continues. It’s bad enough to have your parents not get along and to do embarrassing things in front of your family; having it become public fodder is horrible. J&K+8 is a big money draw for TLC with the advertising, book deals, and what have you; do those eight kids get a cut of any of that? If they lived in Hollywood they would. I’m pretty sure filming those kids almost 24/7 violates child labor laws.

Those poor children. Hasn’t the story of the Dionne Quintuplets shown that you CAN’T market multiple births and not end up with messed up children? If they weren’t on TV, wouldn’t young children working that long raise more than a few eyebrows and probably get CPS called in? Don’t we see the demise of enough child stars in Hollywood – some who go in on their own accord and not from pushy stage parents? Is America really that messed up that we not only don’t care, but we WANT to watch this happen? Those poor kids.

Selling your Ending

Jade Goody has died.

For most of the stateside residents, we had no clue who she was while she was living. Reality Television stars from across the pond just don’t blip on our radar – even with the international controversy they cause. We only know of Jade because she was dying, and doing so in a very public matter.

Ms. Goody had been diagnosed with cervical cancer. Upon realizing it was terminal, she set out on a massive media blitz selling her story rights and the last days of her life to the public. The money, she insists, is going to take care of her two young sons.

This is an entirely new chapter in the fame machine. For so long, public figures have kept their pain and suffering out of the spotlight. Heath Ledger didn’t give a predesignated FINAL magazine interview. Kurt Cobain did not shoot himself with an audience. Although we do not have actual access to Ms. Goodey’s last moments, we have been kept updated through gossip sites, and even major TV news stations on her slow demise.

What does this mean for the future “stars” of tomorrow. Will this become a new trend – selling out your final moments for a quick buck for your family? Is this a good idea? Is it a bad one, at that?

By Jade Goody coming public with her battle with Cancer, Britian has seen a rise in cervical cancer screenings. They are calling it the “Jade Goody Effect”. She has given a face to the suffering that those dying with the disease experence.

We must remember that Jade Goody started as a contestent on Big Brother UK. She didn’t win and was the gossip rags favorite “idiot” to cover for awhile. Through clever marketing and her desire for fame, she made a career out of it, appearing in “Celebrity Big Brother” (with the now infamous “racisim” charge) and launching many products. She didn’t really do anything special. She lost two realtity shows, and pissed off a majority of India.

What Jade Goody has shown is how to extend the 15 minutes you are guarenteed
by being on television. She used everything and anything she had to stay in the spotlight until the bitter end.

I’m slightly afraid that this will become a new trend. I am saddened by her passing, and my heart goes out to her family, but I can’t help but to be slightly relieved that we won’t be getting the hourly updates anymore. Somethings are meant to stay private for a reason. Kudos to her to raising awareness for cervical cancer and getting the sense to sock some money away for her kids, but there was an oversaturation of Jade Goody in the media. It spilled over to America, where she only became famous for dying. Somehow, I don’t think that’s right.

Where is the line drawn? Is it ok to do final interviews from your hospital bed? Should you get free stuff for a lavish wedding because you are weeks away from death? This is an issue that, surprizingly, has not come up before in media-land.

I suspect that this issue will arise again. To that future person, just remember someday your family will look back on these “memories” as preserved in the glossy media magazines. Will you want them to remember you like this?

Love Shouldn’t Hurt

Browsing through PerezHilton.com, and he posted this NYT article regarding the impression the ongoing Rhianna/Chris Brown saga has had on their teenage fanbase.

To briefly summerize in case you are unlike me, and have had better things to do than be glued to your favorite gossip site following this story. Rhianna – 21 year old mega starlet with string of catchy songs – and Chris Brown – 19 year old clean cut R&B star with string of not quite as catchy songs IMO – were the “perfect” couple. Then, the relationship went sour, and he beat her up. Not just a smack or two, but hard core ass-kicking. I suggest you consult Google for further gossip. It has been reported they are still together, they are taking a break, they are robots, what have you.

The NYT article explores the reaction each artist’s fans have had on the situation. Most of their fans are within the lovely teenage demographic; where all is fair in love and war and the weight of the real world rests mostly on mom and dad’s shoulders.

Rhianna’s fans are infurated that she might possibily consider going back to him. Understandable. Chris’s fans – who are mostly female – are flipping the blame on to her. I’ve had friends in that situation, and the whole ordeal just makes my blood boil. We tell the preschoolers daily – there is no excuse EVER to hit, bite, kick, scratch, or maime anybody. To have somebody cause that much bodily harm on somebody else, who they “love”, is just wrong. To see that there is a large portion of the teenage population that just doesn’t feel the situation is wrong, but that instead it is NORMAL is just mind boggling.

Domestic abuse of any kind has always been one of those topics that is pushed in the closet and never talked about until it’s a forced issue. Having a celebrity powerhousego through what so many have gone through certainly forces it to the front window. Hell, even Oprah had an entire show dedicated to “The Rhianna’s of the World”. I’m willing to bet we all know of at least one person who has been in such a situation.

Talk to your friends. Talk to your kids. Don’t let this be a “normal” situation. If you or somebody you know is in an abusive realtionship, urge them to get help.

National Domestic Violence Hotline

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